Quieting the Critic

Almost all of us develop an inner voice that attempts to keep us on track. It lets us know when we’ve made a mistake and when we are falling short of our goals and not being true to their personal values. Most of the time this voice is helpful, but many times it gets off track and becomes corrosive, even abusive, and undermines our self-esteem.

This negative voice is our inner critic and it needs to be quieted. The way to do that is to understand the forms of false logic it attacks us with and the language it uses. We then need to rebut each argument with an accurate assessment of what is really going on in our lives.

Students in this workshop will learn how the inner critic gets its voice, the seven forms of false logic it uses, how to identify each form and what to do to combat its corrosive comments. Once armed with this knowledge and practiced in these skills each student’s inner voice will return to its intended role of encouraging and supportive coach.

Abstract

This workshop will start with a discussion of the positive role and intentions of our inner voice. Students will be asked to share examples of how that voice has helped them in the past.

That will flow into a discussion of how the inner voice gets off track and becomes the inner critic. Students will be asked to share examples of people around them such as parents, teachers and even friends who had good intentions but who may have contributed to a negative pattern of self-talk.

We will then go through each of the seven forms of false logic the inner critic uses to negatively motivate us to do better. Students will be asked to share examples of each and the overall negative results of that line of thought.

For each form of logic, students will be asked to identify and record the specific language their inner critic uses, so they can quickly identify its false logic in the future.

Students will then participate in a discussion of how to counter each form of false logic, and reprogram their inner voice as an encouraging and supportive coach. This portion will also include a discussion on how to help our children do the same.

The eight forms of false logic I will be presenting are: overgeneralization, name-calling, negative filtering, polarized thinking, self-blame, relational thinking, and emotional reasoning.

Objectives

  • Students will be able to identify the positive role of their inner voice.
  • Student will be able to identify the positive intentions but negative influence of their inner critic.
  • Students will be able to list the seven forms of false logic the inner critic uses.
  • Students will be able to identify specific language used by their inner critic in each form of false logic it uses.
  • Student will be able to explain their plan to quiet and reprogram their inner critic and help their child do the same.