101 ADD Strategies: #87, #88 – Regulating Emotions

#87 Reframe It Our emotions are based on a perceived set of circumstances and events. I use the word perceived because it is impossible for us to see circumstances and events as they really are. Our brain stores our version of the situation along with the emotions we attached to it. Sometimes the only way [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #85, #86 – Regulating Emotions

Emotions are all good. What we feel tells us a lot about who we are and what we need. Negative emotions such as fear, anger, sadness, shame, jealousy, frustration, and anxiety, can point to situations in our life that need to be changed and basic human needs that are not being filled. It’s what we [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #83, #84 – Coping with Chaos

#83 Organize It Sometimes chaos can’t be covered up or ignored even when it is concealed from view. Sometimes the chaos is part of the project that you are currently working on. In that case you may just have to stop and invest the time to organize it. Try not to let organizing a project [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #81, #82 – Coping with Chaos

Some people love chaos, although I can’t imagine why. They seem to function better if their environment is in disarray and events are in constant motion. They are so comfortable with chaos that they constantly mess things up and stir things up. People on the other end of the spectrum don’t function at all unless [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #79, #80 – Adapting to Change

#79 Take a Friend Sometimes the best way to cope with a new situation is to take something with you from the old situation. Usually the best thing to take with you is a friend. Being with someone you know makes you feel like you belong and that you are in more familiar territory. Adjusting [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #77, #78 – Adapting to Change

The ADD condition has lots of ironies. Here is one. Some people with ADD tend to be bored easily and their minds are more stimulated and alert in new situations. On the other hand they tend to resist change. It often takes a lot of effort to develop the structures and routines that make life [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #75, #76 – Problem Solving

#75 Brainstorm Solutions If after defining the problem a solution doesn’t present itself, you will need to brainstorm. Needless to say brainstorming requires more than one person. Your brain has been storming since you started defining the problem. Now it is time to involve someone else. The best people to solicit for your brainstorming session [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #73, #74 – Problem Solving

If problems aren’t solved they can accumulate and start to overwhelm us. The ability to solve them as they come up is essential to are mental and physical health. Problems come in several varieties. They can be the show stopping type that can’t be ignored and have to be solved before any forward progress can [...]

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The Sermon on the Couch

I made up this modern-day parent’s version of the Sermon on the Mount a few years back in preparation for a talk at church. The other day a friend of mine asked if he could get a copy. So here it is Dave. 40. And if any sibling will sue thee to thy parents, and take [...]

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101 ADD Strategies: #71, #72 – Anticipating Outcomes

#71 Rely on Experience Now that we have discussed relying on the present and the future, we need to learn to tap into past experiences. This strategy also relies on a pause to allow yourself to scan your past for relevant data. That seems simple enough, but it will only work if that data is [...]

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